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Improved Parent and Teacher Relations

It is beneficial to your child if you have a great relationship with their teacher.  It can increase your child’s success in school.  Establishing open lines of communication is one of the many ways to achieve this goal.  

When your child begins the school year, it is important to meet the teacher.  Make sure that you come across as a very open and friendly parent.  Let the teacher know that you are willing to help reach the goal of a great education for your child.  At the time that you meet the teacher, be sure to give them multiple ways to contact you for communication, including phone and email.  Let the teacher know that you would love to receive any feedback regarding your child.  

It is imperative to ask the teacher questions during conferences.  Do not just sit there and listen.  Get a feel for how your child is doing in school. Try to get the whole picture of their typical day.  Ask about their classwork progress.  Find out if they are engaging in class and involved.  Does your child seem confident with their learning and with their peers?  School is so much more than just learning facts.  Your child is learning interpersonal skills and relationship building tools as well.  You need to check on the status of all these areas of your child’s growth.  

Another thing that you can do to improve parent/teacher relations is to volunteer your time and talents.  Teachers always have projects and tasks that they could use an extra hand to complete.  Find ways to be helpful, and be a valuable resource to the teacher. 

The teacher has a common goal in your child’s success.  Make sure that you show gratitude and appreciation of the teacher.  It will foster a great working relationship, if the teacher feels appreciated for all their work and time.  It does not take a lot to show this appreciation. It could simply be in the form of a quick email thanking them for being a great teacher.  You know the old saying, “it takes a village to raise a child”.  Well the teacher is a very important piece of this village.  It is crucial that you acknowledge this fact.  

In all of your communication with the teacher, the most important thing to remember is the golden rule. Treat others how you want to be treated.  Your child’s teacher will appreciate it and your child will appreciate it as well.

 Parent Tips for Better Communication

Remember that the teacher is on your side and they truly care about your children. Don’t show up for a meeting unannounced, instead, schedule a time to meet. Don’t go over the teacher’s head. If you’re having an issue with the teacher, your child, the subject matter or the classroom in general, talk directly with the teacher before going to the principal or other administrators.

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The Importance of Bedtimes for Children By Serfronya Wallace

Every child needs to have a set bedtime every night. This is for the betterment of the children and the peace of mind of their caretakers. When children are regularly permitted to go to bed late or have no bedtime at all, the entire family suffers. These children are often tired and that reflects in their attitudes, behavior and school work.

 

It is startling to find out how much sleep children actually need to be well rested. The following is a good guideline to follow to make sure your child receives adequate rest:

 

Toddlers: 12 – 14 hours

Preschoolers: 11 – 13 hours

School Aged Children (through age 12): 10 – 11 hours

 

According to the National Sleep Foundation, most children do not get these amounts of sleep during a 24 hour period.

 

The actual time that children go to bed can vary from 7 pm – 10:30 pm. There is no set rule as to what time is best for what age. If you notice that your child still seems tired or cranky during the day then try moving the bedtime up. Likewise, if you put him down for bed and the child is just laying there unable to sleep for long periods of time then perhaps the bedtime needs to be later. The most important thing is that the child is well rested.

 

Adhering to a bedtime will benefit your kids. If their behavior is less than stellar the majority of the time then this may be due to lack of sleep. Tired children are more prone to acting out. As a parent, this means dealing with more tantrums and disciplinary issues.

In general, children’s conduct is better when they are well rested.

 

And getting enough sleep can improve how they function in school.  It is extremely difficult for a disciplined adult to function well during the day when they are tired. How much more true is this for our children? Lack of attention, poor test performance, and falling asleep in class can often be traced back to poor sleeping habits.

 

Also, having children up at all hours of the night can put a strain on your marital relationship. Maybe you feel that between work and parenting there isn’t enough time leftover with your spouse. Or perhaps moments for intimacy are rare. Putting kids to bed at a reasonable time will create more occasions for closeness with your mate.

 

So, start a nighttime routine and be consistent with it. For example, have the child put on his pajamas, wash his face, brush his teeth, read a quick bedtime story, say his prayers and kiss everyone in the house goodnight, and then lay down. After a few nights, the child will know this means it’s time to go to bed he will be less likely to protest.

 

Of course setting a bedtime may prove to be easier than actually enforcing it. Your child may resent having this new boundary, especially if he is used to staying up as long as he wants. So don’t be surprised if this new schedule is met with resistance. Just help the child adhere to bedtime rituals and in a very short time his body and attitude will adjust to the change.



La importancia de horas de acostarse para niños

Serfronya Wallace

Cada niño tiene que tener una hora de acostarse del juego cada noche. Esto es para la mejoría de los niños y la tranquilidad de ánimo de sus conserjes. Cuando a los niños les permiten con regularidad acostarse tarde o no tener hora de acostarse en absoluto, la familia entera sufre. Estos niños a menudo son cansados y esto reflexiona en sus actitudes, comportamiento y trabajo escolar.

Es alarmante para averiguar cuánto tienen que descansar bien a niños del sueño realmente. Lo siguiente es una pauta buena para seguir para asegurarse que su hijo recibe el resto adecuado:

Niños: 12 – 14 horas

Alumnos preescolares: 11 – 13 horas

Escuela de Edad de Niños (a través de edad 12): 10 – 11 horas

Según la Fundación del Sueño Nacional, la mayor parte de niños no consiguen estas cantidades del sueño durante un período de 24 horas.

El tiempo actual que los niños se acuestan puede variar a partir de las 19:00 – 22:30. No hay regla definida en cuanto a a que hora es el mejor para que edad. Si nota que su hijo todavía parece cansado o excéntrico durante el día entonces tratan de subir la hora de acostarse. Igualmente, si le deja para la cama y el niño pone sólo allí incapaz de dormir durante períodos de tiempo largos entonces quizás la hora de acostarse tiene que ser más tarde. La cosa más importante consiste en que descansan bien al niño.

La adhesión a una hora de acostarse beneficiará a sus niños. Si su comportamiento es menos que estelar la mayoría del tiempo entonces esto puede ser debido a la carencia del sueño. Los niños cansados son más propensos a la representación. Como un padre, esto significa tratar con más rabietas y cuestiones disciplinarias.

En general, la conducta de niños es mejor cuando los descansan bien.

Y la adquisición de bastante sueño puede mejorar cómo funcionan en la escuela. Es muy difícil para un adulto disciplinado funcionar bien durante el día cuando son cansados. ¿Cuánto más verdadero es esto para nuestros hijos? La carencia de la atención, realización de prueba pobre, y durmiéndose en la clase a menudo puede ser remontada a hábitos durmientes pobres.

También, tener niños a todas las horas de la noche puede poner una tensión sobre su relación matrimonial. Tal vez siente que entre trabajo y crianza de los hijos allí no es sobrante de bastante tiempo con su cónyuge. O quizás los momentos para la intimidad son raros. Acostar a niños en un tiempo razonable creará más ocasiones para la proximidad con su compañero.

De este modo, comience una rutina nocturna y sea consecuente con ella. Por ejemplo, haga poner al niño su pijama, lave su cara, cepille sus dientes, lea una historia de la hora de acostarse rápida, diga sus rezos y bese a cada uno en la casa buenas noches, y luego pose. Después de unas noches, el niño sabrá que esto significa que es tiempo de acostarse con menor probabilidad protestará.

Por supuesto el ajuste de una hora de acostarse puede resultar ser más fácil que hacerlo cumplir realmente. Su hijo se puede ofender por tener este nuevo límite, sobre todo si está acostumbrado a la permanencia mientras quiere. Así no esté sorprendido si este nuevo horario es encontrado con la resistencia. Sólo ayude al niño a adherirse a rituales de la hora de acostarse y en un muy poco tiempo su cuerpo y actitud se adaptarán al cambio.

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Why It’s Important to Teach Your Child Gratitude

Children who learn a sense of gratitude when they’re young are better positioned for happiness later in life. While it is important to teach your child life skills like saying please and thank you, it is even more beneficial to teach them how to be grateful. If you need further convincing, consider the following top benefits of raising a grateful child:


– Grateful children tend to get better grades. They know how blessed they are to be offered the opportunity of an education and are more willing to focus on their studies than a child who is raised with a sense of entitlement.

 


– Grateful children are less likely to get into trouble as they reach their teenage years. When they’re raised knowing how lucky they are and how many blessings they have, they are less likely to rebel or turn against their parents.

 


– Gratitude helps combat stress, both in children and in adults. Teach your child to live in a state of gratitude and you’ll be setting them up for happiness and peacefulness as an adult.

 

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Surviving the Witching Hour

Wryly referred to as “the witching hour”, early evening can be the most exhausting and frustrating daily timeslot for busy mums. Older children arrive home from after school activities, hungry and bursting to tell the news of the day (all at once). Toddlers and babies are grizzly and scream if removed from the haven of Mom’s arms and Dad walks in from work, expecting harmony, a good meal and control of the television. Chances are, if Mum has been to work, or had a disrupted day at home, the washing will need bringing in, dinner is only half prepared and her nerves are stretched to breaking point.

 Whilst this scenario may sound sadly familiar, it does not need to be accepted as an inevitable part of family life. Some simple preemptive measures can help you conquer the witching hour for good.

 

 

FREE MoM’S SCHEDULE

Leave the time between school pick-up and serving dinner to focus on the kids and their needs. Avoid attempting housework and don’t even consider taking time out to relax. (Unless you are relaxing with your offspring, in a way that makes them happy.)

 

BE PREPARED

Make meals ahead of time. This could be done earlier in the day, if you are able, or have a weekly cooking session and store ready to heat meals in the freezer. Have after school snacks and clothes on hand as soon as the kids arrive home, to minimize displays of impatience.

 

GIVE CLEAR EXPECTATIONS

Make sure the kids know what is expected of them in the afternoons. Have a regular routine of homework, chores and play. Be consistent. Delegate tasks so that the evening runs smoothly.

 

HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTIONS

When kids and adults return home at the end of the day, they are usually worn out. Allow sufficient “down time” for energy replenishment. Tailor dinner menus to suit your availability. There is a great deal to be said for one-pot dishes that can be tossed in the oven and forgotten until serving time. Make use of purchased sauces and recipe bases to simplify meal preparation. Save time-consuming, complex concoctions for days when you can give them your full attention.

 

MAKE INVOLVEMENT FUN

Enlist the help of the kids in preparing for the meal. Find tasks they enjoy rather than forcing them to do dreaded jobs…this only adds to the frustration of everyone. Older children may prefer amusing little ones to assisting with chores, which could actually be more useful.

 

IT’S WIGGLE TIME

A bright bouncy children’s DVD (who can go past “The Wiggles”?) can distract a miserable toddler and provide precious peace for the rest of the family. A second television is an asset. With news and current affairs in one room and dancing dinosaurs in the other, everyone is happy.

 

BE STRONG AND OF GOOD COURAGE

Having done everything in your power to make an evening run smoothly, things can still go belly-up! Try to retain your inner calm and resist the urge to contribute to escalating tensions. Remind yourself that, in a short while the kids will be in bed and you can put your feet up and relax. That is, after you have cleared the mess and prepared for the early morning onslaught.

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